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Fight vs Flight

In a boxing match there is usually two people who are getting into a ring to battle against each other for a prize. There can only be one winner. During this time the fight and flight impulses kick in. One will constantly opt to fight (remain standing or getting up) or to flight (remain on the ground and give up). Are you currently facing a fight or flight situation? It can be anything from: ·                      Should I continue with the studies when it seems impossible? ·                      Must I stay in this relationship even if it brings so much tears? ·                        How do I keep the peace in the family? ·                      Do I keep working under bad working conditions? ·      ...

Trust the process

Do you feel like giving up on what you started?  This can  be a book you start writing, starting your own business, starting a vlog or blog, working on your finances. This can be anything you recently embarked on. There comes a time when things don’t work out the  way you always planned.  Maybe there is no interest in what you are selling, writing or making videos about but time will come when you will be noticed. Not because of who you are but because of the total impact you will be making in the world. We sometimes want to give up in the middle but it is there where all the pressing, molding, shaping happens. Things around us may look as if there is no changes happening. The environment that you are familiar with seems like there is no development in but it is where small changes do occur.  It is there where small victories are won even if you don’t see it. We should keep our eyes on the main goal we started with in the first place.  It is in this times w...

Every day counts

 Every day is an opportunity Do you feel that you have come to your end of searching for better things or oppertunities? Maybe you have been looking in all places but without any progress. Its difficult not to get what you are actually looking for. Its also sad to stop looking for what you want. How bad do you want to develop or make things better for yourself? It can be that you feel that you are too old now to dream still.  It doesn’t matter what you think or how you feel but with breathe still in you , you have an opportunity to try again. It is not always easy to dust yourself off after you fell, but that is the only way you will be able to move forward. Do not be so comfortable in what you have now ,whilst you are entitle to so much more. Stop watching other people's successes and feel you will never get there.  Each person's journey is different. They also had their difficulties but because of perserverance and commitment they have pushed through. People who look as...

Create your destiny

Have you ever wonder why certain things dont turn out the way you wished?.  The reason is that you did nothing to fulfill it. Could it be that you just have wishful thinking?. That you wish to be someone , have something, become someone one day but you do nothing about it?. Life is what you make out of it. What you create is what you will get. If you want to have a   house full of joy, laughter, happiness you should create the atmosphere. If you want to have an enjoyable work environment, you should create one.  Nothing will just be the way you wish it to be. What is the areas that you wish to see some changes in?. Here are ways to create what you want: 1.  Begin your day with positive self  affirmations. Speak good words over yourself such as " I am loved", I have joy, I will win today". This way you are setting the pace for the whole day. 2.  Start your day with prayer and bring all your plans and desires before the Lord God of the whole universe....

How to believe in yourself again

It is difficult when you want to do something and you do not believe in it. How do you think someone else will take you seriously when you have doubts? There are things in life we as women face that makes us doubt in ourselves. We get in relationships with men that does not appreciate us and we believe it is our fault when things dont work out. The funny part is that we always repeat the same cycle of getting into relationships and looking for acceptance from the other person. It is such experiences that let us become women with low self-esteem. We always look for someone to give us validation. Sometimes we are so busy focusing on the other person that we forget to start searching for the root cause of the problem. Who are you before you expose yourself to someone else? Do you need to feel appreciated based on someone else's opinion about yourself?. Here is how to start to believe in yourself again: 1. Start looking into your own heart. How is your heart doing right now? Identify e...

Developing yourself

Have you lately feel like you are stuck?. That something is missing but you just cant figure out what? Well it can be that you need to dig deeper into yourself to find out where this emptiness comes from. There are ways to develop the skills you already have to discover the missing link you might have in your life. Skills are the tool that can bring you out of any situation you are stuck in. The areas of stagnation can be anything from your finances, marriage, personal relationships, spiritual life or workplace. The best way to start is with what you already have in your hand. The thing that makes you tick and experience a sense of peace when operating in that gift. The bible say that your gift can open doors for you.  It is therefore so important to start to recognise what you have already. Embrace it and develop it to its full potential. This means that your life can shift totally from nothing to something major. We often always feel that we have nothing.  That is in fact a ...

How to revive your dreams

Have you had a dream since your school days ? Have you brought it into reality? I know many did not because I am one of them. When I finished matric I wanted to become a social worker. I knew I had to go and study to become a professional social worker but since we were not in a great financial state I reckon ,"nah let me rather go and work".  I had this dream because I had the passion to help people or maybe I didn't.   I mean if I were that passionate about this career why did I not try all means to fulfill this dream. This is which led me to help someone to revive that buried dream. 1. Go down memory lane It is nice to just become quiet with your own thoughts and being reminded of the good things that happened years ago. It is also important to remember that dream you once had. Start to remember how it made you feel when you daydreamed about it. The possibilities you envisioned with the beautiful end results. 2. Write it down again You probably wrote your dream down ba...