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Connection vs Covenant

How do one truly know if the connection is healthy for you or it is  time to cut such connections?

You now hold onto such connections out of obligation and because of peace. You tell yourself you will rather let it continue. 
You don't want to hurt feelings but how can you keep on trying to make a connection, relationship, friendship work if it's just when it suits them or rather beneficial for the other person.

It is almost as if the other party is afraid that you will outshine him or her. There is the gut feeling that you have received for a long time and you keep on pushing it under the rug.

Connection is to relate, combine, join or unite. Covenant is a promise, contract, bond or a pact.

It's fine to be connected but if it does not come with a bigger picture in mind to almost lay down your life for the other person than its not worth holding onto. 

It's than better to cut such connections. All the signs are there. Don't feel bad. Sometimes it's just that the other person cant deal with your growth and it makes them uncomfortable in their own growth journey. 

So there will aways be a need to outshine you, do beter than you or want to make a statement that "I can do it better"!.
 
In fact if you are the one who always celebrate but don't get the same response. What if I tell you that you are actually their biggest inspiration? . Don't shrink now, show up even more now! 

It's time to let go to protect your peace, oil and focus. 

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 NLT
[1] For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. [2] A time to be born and a time to die. A time to plant and a time to harvest. [3] A time to kill and a time to heal. A time to tear down and a time to build up. [4] A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance. [5] A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones. A time to embrace and a time to turn away. [6] A time to search and a time to quit searching. A time to keep and a time to throw away. [7] A time to tear and a time to mend. A time to be quiet and a time to speak. [8] A time to love and a time to hate. A time for war and a time for peace.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 clearly stipulates that there is  a time for everything under the sun. Do not grieve people that  God is simply repositioning. God knows why the season has to change. God sees everything. We only see outward whilst God sees inward and outward. Trust when God says release!! 

Yours faitffully
Chrisandy 




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